Date: Wed, 27 Jun 2007 19:16:17 -0400 From: "Mike B." <omni at omniphile.com> Subject: [WSFA] Re: Open and Shut Parties (was Re: Slan...) To: WSFA members <WSFAlist at KeithLynch.net> Reply-To: WSFA members <WSFAlist at KeithLynch.net> Well said! Huzzah! Hear, hear! Right on! And other such affirmations and expressions of congruency of thought and feelings. I do wonder why this just showed up in my in-box today though...maybe messages with a lot of value travel slower? -- Mike B. At 6/3/2007 11:42 AM, Walter Miles wrote: >Part of the foundational mythology of fandom used to be that most >of us were shy, solitary readers who weren't invited to parties, >and were rejected and sometimes mistreated by our peers (in high >school, if you will). Then we found this strange, nomadic feast- >of-the-elves where we were allowed in, our weirdnesses accepted, >often encouraged, where we could exercise and develop those >(beneficial and necessary!) parts of ourselves that we could never >even reveal in our pale previous lives. > >I believe that there was essential truth there. Many of us were >shy, or socially backward, or felt real or apparent rejection or >alienation in society. We experienced powerful liberation >and affirmation of ourselves in fandom, and this has helped a good >number of fans do better in the wider world as well. > >Our mythology >also suggested, or should suggest, our >responsibility to our fannish fellows and those who come after us. >We must not climb into the rescue boat and promptly pull up >the lifeline. > >Open fannish parties may well be our central ritual practice. >They embody the mythology [I have referred to]. They say "I don't >know you, but I shall. Tell me what you know. Show me what you >can do. What do you think of this?" > >Not every party needs to be open, but open parties reinforce the >best part of our mythology > >An apparently open party, from which only a few are humiliatingly >excluded (even for the "best" reasons). > >Soul killing. > >Some of us are/were so socially timid, we would be reluctant to >enter any party, however <inviting> open. > >When you hold an open party you never know who will come through the >door, a murderous pervert, a crushing bore, your next best friend or true >love. > >=========================================================== ><Pls note the new "from" address, I'm slowly shifting over> >----------------------------------------------------------- >Walter A. Miles, Jr. waltmiles at comcast.net (301) 891-2815 >217 Spring Avenue, Takoma Park, MD 20912